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In a world where rumors often obscure the truth, I want to clarify my trafficking and exploitation story, which has been twisted by deceit, manipulation, and cherry-picked data for the entertainment of sadistic trolls, both online and offline. The short answer is NO—I did not cheat on my husband—and these destructive, cherry-picked, and defamatory narratives were my punishment as the victim and witness for not complying with the demands from my trafficker’s network of “friends”—as he called them. Period. End of story.

The accusations of infidelity in my marriage were fabricated by Manosphere-trained Matthew, my loverboy groomer and trafficker from Newmarket, Ontario, Canada, but now in Washington D.C. as of mid-2023 (update: he appears to be back in the Toronto, Ontario, Canada area as of early 2025), along with an ex-friend, Jonathan, currently living in St. Charles, Missouri.

They, along with their “friends” within these exploitation networks, also attempted to loverboy groom me. Jonathan confronted me with these false accusations after I again refused to comply with their illegal demands; he did this in my home, in front of my husband and minor child, in an attempt to ‘expose’ me to my loved ones. I am sickened by this sadistic behaviour.

I’m not afraid of their lies because I know they’re not true and are made from fraudulent evidence. I’m tired of being blackmailed and ruined by weak men within the Manosphere who have to create lies about other people in order to gain control over them and exploit them, especially when they both knew I am autistic; this is lower than low to exploit me.

This is why I name them: there is sufficient evidence to do so, law enforcement refused to assist, it is vital information of public interest, and they’ve made sure I can’t afford a lawyer to sue them. The difference is I don’t have to lie about people—I’ll post receipts that can be fully authenticated by the same law enforcement and courts that failed to protect us, on their dime.

I met both through online gaming on Xbox; they were later discovered to be loverboy groomers, social engineers, and moles, aiming to collect personal data as friends, but did it for exploitation. Their network of friends, as they called them, was allegedly within the Manosphere, an anti-feminist and dangerous network increasingly recognized over the years for its destructive impact and false, cherry-picked public exposures and humiliation of women worldwide that refused to toe the line.

I met Matthew in 2015, before he used deceitful tactics, namely loverboy method grooming, to coerce me to meet him across international borders in Toronto, Ontario, Canada, in 2016 under the guise of the polyamorous relationship I believed all this was, but he gained access to my living quarters with that same deception while I was there to sexually assault me. For many years, I was very ashamed to have been tricked this way and tried to handle it on my own.

I believed that because I was a smart woman—albeit the typical “socially awkward” that autists are well-known for—I could avoid these kinds of things, and I’m thankful for the highly trained and licensed professionals that have helped me learn how these networks function. Make no mistake: his nice guy façade was just that—a façade. Although he did also provide kindness, which was deeply confusing, this push-pull method between love bombing and abuse is a well-known way to disorient victims.

Used with other methods, like neuro-linguistic programming, instigating fear and terror, combined with love and kindness—which they both allegedly used—it can cause many issues, even permanent brain damage, which I now have.

They heavily cherry-picked all the data between us and showed the edited versions to others outside of our relationship and friendship (I was never in a romantic relationship with Jonathan) in an effort to create an alternative reality, mislead others, and create exploitation and abuse via proxy as a way to legally separate themselves from the crimes—this is why they shield the identities of these friends. I loved his mask and the façade he presented, but it was made clear that he did not love me.

Publicly releasing the loverboy grooming texts will show exactly why I, along with millions of other victims, fall prey to this ruse and why public knowledge of this process needs to become mainstream. I’m standing behind my values and releasing what I know (which will take years due to the sheer size of my archives).

These warnings to others have always been given as just that—information we believe to be important to the public’s interest, not defamatory or done in malice, and it includes evidence and the context in a truthful manner to the best of my ability as a woman on the autism spectrum, now with permanent brain damage. None of the data on my site and in my stories are faked in any way, as I truly want other victims and survivors to use my experiences to solidify their own cases against their abusers.

Know that they were given many years to repent and pay for the damages, and they chose to dig in further and make it worse—making this site and its archives public for the first time is the end result of their choices.